Many couples at some point find themselves looking at one another and wondering, "how did we get here??". All attempts at connecting meaningfully with one another seem to be unsuccessful and they keep getting stuck in a pattern of communication that leaves them both feeling unheard and invalidated. This can be brought on by a number of reasons but I believe a remedy can always be found when couples can be a safe place for one another again. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, my goal is to create an environment were the emotional needs behind those more harsh reactions can be identified and where I can work collaboratively with couples to find new solutions to bringing a sense of love and belonging back into the relationship.
Culture and society typically have adopted a "life's tough, get a helmet" mentality when it comes to weathering the stresses and painful trials of life. Showing our emotional reaction to distress is often seen as weak, dramatic, or even childish. The unfortunate part about this, even if we're not aware of it, is that it leaves us with unresolved hurts and emotions that tend to follow us around or come out sideways. I believe that true healing and growth always starts with being honest about where we are in the first place. Using an attachment based therapy model, my goal is to create a sanctuary for your soul where you feel honored in what ever emotional, mental, and spiritual landscape you may find yourself in.
We use this as the foundation for helping you create change in areas you might be feeling stuck.
There is tremendous pressure on families - get the grades, play the sports, throw the parties, be active, be involved, get it right. Then perhaps something tragic happens to the family, or someone is struggling and acting out, or the same unproductive pattern of interacting starts running the show and you find yourselves feeling utterly stuck. In these situations parents' desire to love their kids well and the kids desire to have the love and attention of their parents often get lost. I believe that, no matter what age, we all have needs for feeling safe and connected with those we love. When working with families, I use Emotionally Focused Family Therapy. My goal is to create space for us to slow down a little and build in ways of communicating where parents feel like they can reach their kids and kids feel heard and cared for by their parents.
For more information, including pricing and availability, please contact me here!